Sarah, Abraham’s wife, wasn’t as believing as her husband. She too, laughed, but laughed in unbelief. After all, she couldn't have children, but, she had an idea. Like many wives Sarah may have seen the excitement in her husband’s face over this promise God made to him. The old man was changed and she could see it. Perhaps in her unbelief she didn’t want to see her husband disappointed, so she offered him Hagar, her handmaid, in hope that she would give him a son. Here’s the question.
If Abraham was as unwaveringly faithful as Paul said, then why did he take Hagar, his wife’s handmaid, to wife (engage in sex)?
Here is my answer. Abraham was every bit a man. He had the same fleshly desires and weaknesses as any man today. Here is a man that had his wife's permission to have sex with another woman, and he took the offer. Abraham engaged in an adulterous relationship with Hagar because he wanted to, not because he needed a son.
This should serve as a lesson and warning to every man. The Scriptures ask the question, “Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?” Proverbs 6:27. The answer is a resounding, NO! If we allow ourselves to be put in a place where our flesh will speak without our brain, we will most assuredly fall.
Consider this, the patriarch, Joseph did not run (Genesis 39:11, 12) from the sexual advancements of Potiphar's wife because he was strong, but rather because Joseph knew how weak he was to such advancements. May we as men also consider our weaknesses and avoid a life heartache.
Let's consider this also. Many great men in the Bible fell to the weakness of a woman. David, a “man after God's heart.” was one of those men. His son, Solomon was yet another, but was still considered the wisest of the wise. Do an internet search and you'll find many more. Many of these men learned valuable lessons as a result of their sin and found grace in God's eyes. The ideal situation is to avoid a sinful act, but God is still merciful, forgiving, loving, gracious, kind, and caring if we fall. We may feel the emotional pain of sin, but God doesn't change. His grace is greater than all our sin.
Grace that exceeds our sin and our guilt!
Yonder on Calvary’s mount outpoured,
There where the blood of the Lamb was spilled.
Sin and despair, like the sea waves cold,
Threaten the soul with infinite loss;
Grace that is greater, yes, grace untold,
Points to the refuge, the mighty cross.
Dark is the stain that we cannot hide.
What can avail to wash it away?
Look! There is flowing a crimson tide,
Brighter than snow you may be today.
Marvelous, infinite, matchless grace,
Freely bestowed on all who believe!
You that are longing to see His face,
Will you this moment His grace receive?
Grace, grace, God’s grace,
Grace that will pardon and cleanse within;
Grace, grace, God’s grace,
Grace that is greater than all our sin.